Anniversary

One thing that puzzled me during our plan of celebrating the 24th wedding anniversary was all the coinciding with official release of Taylor Swift's 11th studio album. I joked about Taylor Swift choosing to celebrate our big day.

Taylor's new album is likened to a new star in the galaxy, and her music has been a global phenomenon.

My daughter, like all other Swifties, has been head over heels for her, and more so in the days leading up to the release of "The


Mental

The story of Michael Laudor, as told by acclaimed author Jonathan Rosen, was heartrending. The author, Michael’s closest childhood and lifelong friend, wrote a story spanning 50 years which took me two weeks to finish.

In terms of language prowess and intelligence, Michael Laudor could take pride in his encyclopaedia recall, like reading a book in one sitting without losing a word. He read faster than Rosen, remembered more, and processed information more quickly.

The way Michael studied was not for the faint of hearts

Out of the Box

I happened to be reading Ozan Varol's book two days ago, when I was on call looking after patients with kidney disease. As a rocket scientist turned award-winning author, Ozan Varol championed moving out of our comfort zone. That means taking off the training wheels and moving away from the familiar path.

One of my call duties was to look after and orchestrate kidney transplant from a brain death donor after a tragic traffic accident. My two patients were waiting for the new kidneys. They didn't speak


Dead

Unlike buying cinema tickets, on-demand streaming platform lets us enjoy more movies than we can imagine. The good part about the streaming service is that there's always chance to stop and switch.

When our family first picked the superhero movie Deadpool today, we didn't realise the bloody violence scenes throughout the story based on the Marvel Comics. That unsettled us. So much so that we stopped watching within the first ten minutes.

We were disappointed, but not for long. We went for another movie,

Exercise

How many of us have dreamt of living better longer? I know I have.

Today, voluminous research has shown that mortality is an inevitable companion of aging and chipping away one disease at a time is futile, like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic . The good news, though, is that exercise is the most potent pro-longevity "drug". I was introduced to this strategy by Peter Attia in his eye-opening book Outlive . In short, medicine's biggest failing is in attempting to treat all


True

For years, we love reading crime stories or psychological thrillers.

Unsettling as they're, these fictions give us irresistible pleasure from the adrenaline swooshing through the bloodstream, not to mention the Hitchcockesque entertainment of decoding mystery.

It would be easy, and oh so helpful, for authors to stick to the theme of telling lies. My daughter finished One of Us is Lying not long ago. I just read None of This is True .

All these books are destined to end with a maze twisted by the somewhat sickening knots


Ando

I doubt many outside the field of architecture have heard of Tadao Ando. Few inside the field, somehow, know that he was born in poverty, had been raised by his grandmother and was a boxer, before he started teaching himself architecture. I learrned his story from Adam Grant's book Hidden Potential .

As the only architect ever to win all four of the field's most prestigious prizes, his success has come with an asterisk. Without means to go to college, Ando borrowed architecture books from friends and


Seals

Ed Yong is the author of two New York Times bestsellers and won the Pulitzer Prize for covering the coronavirus pandemic.

I’d just read his chapter about seals, sea lions and walruses – collectively known as pinnipeds – before our family visit of the Ocean Park yesterrday. Ed Yong gives me even more knowledge of marine animals.

As I watched the whiskers protruding from the harbor seals’ snout, I remember how the seals are making meticulous efforts to keep the whiskers warm, even when diving in freezing water. That’

Death

There is no one way to approach final moments with a loved one.

Ask Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and you will learn authentic language on dying. Listen to the renowned physician BJ Miller's TED Talk, and you might find out what really matters at the end of life. If you're bookworm, go and find the ones by Sherwin Bernard Nuland or Atul Gawande.

But it was only when I came across a little graphic poetry collection by Wendy MacNaughton today that I began to have deep learning on


Love

Falling in love is euphoric. Going to the wedding ceremony and you’ll see – and hear – for yourself. There’re wonderful sparks of maritalbliss. But then, according to long-range studies by the American psychologist Dr. Dorothy Tennov, the average life span of a romantic obsession is two years.

Dr. Tennov didn’t include me in the study but I am sure my memory of our wedding is evaporating. So much so that I answered the wrong yearof my marriage recently. That