We've been living in a world of rules. Mostly a black-and-white binary paradigm. It's very common for us to fall into a stereotype - either you're tough or you're tender.

It sounds pretty uncomfortable to let people hear me swear (and I did) when I'm supposed to be a kind-hearted person. At the end of the day, we might end up pretending to fit with the stereotype. Oh, man. That means I can only swear when nobody is within earshot.

That's why I feel much relieved after reading Brené Brown's work. I've had the opportunity to learn from this four-time New York Times bestselling author who has spent two decades studying vulnerability. She shows us the courage to show up and be vulnerable. True belonging, according to B rené Brown, doesn't require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are. What's perhaps the most important example to live by is the act of bringing together a threesome - strong back, soft front, wild heart.

I believe I should learn to integrate all these three. Who shouldn't?